The Art of Not Being A Busy Body

Lately, I’ve been running into a lot of busy people. Too busy to stop and talk, too busy to answer their phone, too busy to get this or that done, too busy to pay attention and on and on..

What’s it all about? I get that it is almost summer, one of the busiest times of the year, and everyone is buzzing around trying to enjoy it.

I’m busy too. But not so busy that I’m a busy body.

I like my rest and my peace. I’ve developed a way to get the things in my life done by way of an order of importance priority list.

My priorities:

  1. Family–hubby & kitty
  2. Work
  3. Bills, managing investments, home admin, appointments, and household shopping (I’m in charge of all things finance, inventoring/ordering household stuff) making and attending all appts. related to car, cat, and apartment, all cleaning/maintaining of our home.
  4. Homebased businesses–selling online (eBay, Etsy, and Poshmark)
  5. Volunteer work–(garden, shelter)
  6. Editing work
  7. Hobbies-walking, biking, gardening, reading, watching movies, and thrifting/antiquing
  8. Social media–YouTube channels, Blogging, Instagram, Facebook
Years and years ago, I was one of those people with too much to do who was constantly trying to catch up. I was also one of those people who would sacrifice all things fun because that is how I was raised. My father was the prime example of someone who wouldn’t leave the farm if there was work to do. Hence, he never really left the farm. Gone at 61, his life was a masterpiece of non-stop work. I was heading in that direction, and to this day, I’ve not entirely mastered the art of not being a busy body. Setting priorities has helped in that they point me in the right direction for the things in my life that are most important. It’s not to say that selling on eBay isn’t important to me. It is. But if I have something to do for my full-time work and something to do for eBay, my full-time work comes first. Then, before the day ends, I will complete whatever I need to do for eBay. I am one of those people, and I think that I always will be, who would rather get things done today than put them off until tomorrow. With this way of thinking, one must incorporate a stop sign in their mind, and up it goes when you’ve done enough (realistically, not in your mind) for the day. I think one of the biggest things that I’ve always tried to avoid is disappointing people and myself. In my quest to make everyone and everything feel that they were equally important, I always risked ending up making nothing feel important. Thankfully, I decided to set priorities in order of importance, focus on the most important each day, and work my way down. It’s never to say that things at the bottom of my list are not important, but rather to say that those things will have to wait until I attend to my full-time work and other priorities. I am a very efficient person, so all of my priorities are taken care of on a daily, every other day, or once a week basis. If it’s not getting taken care of, then it’s not a priority. It is very important to make that distinction. If you have things in your life that you aren’t getting to, then you haven’t prioritized them. Essentially, they are not important enough for you to address. If, in fact, they are, but they’re falling through the cracks, prioritize them. If, in fact, they are not, then you will need to walk away. People nowadays, maybe they always did, equate busy with success. In their minds, not being busy 24/7 means they aren’t relevant. I know this is going to sound flippant, but for your own sanity, don’t buy into this. The same people who feel this way and make every attempt to stay relevant, etc., are the same people you’ll witness crashing and burning repeatedly. These same people will start and stop every single time that they burn out. They will make excuses and promises every time they fail to meet deadlines or let something that was “very important to them” die a slow death due to neglect. You do you, and let people who equate busyness with success figure it out themselves. I hope this helps anyone struggling with being a busy body.

..

Until next time,🐝 well.

Ramps and Rhubarb

Ramps

Ramps are related to leeks and here in the Midwest they’re the very first thing that pops out of the ground and are usually sold at Farmer’s Markets from late April to very early May (about three weeks) and then gone. It’s hard to define what a ramp tastes like. They taste both sweet and strong- maybe slightly like a sweet earthy garlic. A popular way to enjoy them is in a salad. We spent Saturday morning at the Farmer’s Market in Madison WI and bought two bunches of ramps home with us. I made a ramp salad with lemon vinaigrette dressing– the recipe is here .  It was fabulous, you will love it. Give it a try. Next week, perhaps two weeks from now, rhubarb will be available for sale.  I’ve included a favorite family recipe for rhubarb crunch.  Fun Fact- Did you know rhubarb is not a fruit. A good rule of thumb is that fruit is the seed-bearing structure in flowering plants. So botanically–the flowers you see on tomato plants, cucumbers, peas, pumpkins, and peppers make them a fruit. Rhubarb is classified as a perennial vegetable.

Ingredients
3 cups diced rhubarb
1 cup granulated sugar
3 tablespoons all-purpose flour
1 cup packed light brown sugar
1 cup quick cooking oats
1 1/2 cups all-purpose flour
1 cup & 2 pats of butter
Directions
Preheat oven to 375 degrees F
Lightly grease a 9×13 inch baking dish.
In a large mixing bowl combine rhubarb, granulated sugar, and 3 tablespoons flour. Stir well and spread evenly into baking dish. Set aside.
In a large mixing bowl combine brown sugar, oats, and 1 1/2 cups flour. Stir well then cut in butter or margarine until mixture is crumbly. Sprinkle mixture over rhubarb layer.
Bake in preheated oven for 40 minutes. Serve hot or cold.

Until next time be well! 🐝

Recipes for Leftover Ham

With Easter already here on Sunday, I’m currently planning on what to do with my leftover ham. There are three different kinds of sandwiches I plan to make this year. Ham and Cheese sliders, Ham Spread Sandwiches, and last but never least Cuban Sandwiches w/ham.

deviled ham sandwich

The recipe that I use for the ham spread is here– I skip the hard-boiled eggs when I make this sandwich.  I loved going to church events as a kid because these sandwiches were always served on bakery fresh buns/rolls. I have a great food grinder attachment for my KitchenAid and I use it to grind my ham extra smooth-I’m not fond of chunks of ham in this sandwich.

ham and cheese

Ham & Cheese Sliders-the recipe I use is here. I fix these sandwiches a lot on game nights, our guests finish them right off. The Hawaiian Rolls are essential in these sliders.

cuban sandwich

Cuban Sliders are my favorite of all sandwiches. The best one I’ve had to date was at The Great Dane Pub and Brewing Company in Madison Wisconsin some years ago. Since then I have been making my own.  The recipe I use is here

Friends, I’m not going to lie, it’s been busier than usual around here and I am behind in posts. Try as I might to begin to create one, life gets in the way and I have to save my draft and begin again when the day settles down. I hate to just post recipes and run, I’d rather talk a little, tell you what’s been going on, see or hear what’s been going on in your life, and make it worth the time it takes me to get it all typed out. I digress, I hope this post finds everyone of you in good health. Have a fabulous holiday weekend, if you celebrate Easter, and I’ll see you again soon!

xoxo

The lost art of loving a mundane day💛

Maybe it was an article I read or the times in my life sitting at a patient’s bed in their last hours of life. It comes to me at different times, usually when I’m thinking about the future. As I age, my husband too, and even our cat, I know that someday it won’t be the three of us anymore. During times of cuddling in bed, we three, I often feel sad, even though we’re making memories. I think to myself, someday I’ll pray for a mundane day just like this.

One day, as I’m sitting and balancing a budget that may include hospital stays, or medication, or surgeries, I’ll pray for a mundane like this.

One day, when my tire goes flat on the interstate, I’ll look back on my many mundane days and wish to be right in the middle of one again.

I’ll reflect on the times life was easier–barefoot on gravel, sand between my toes, caught in the rain, cold pop, fresh bread, extra time, a door held open, a simple thank-you, more than one available, in stock, and I think the mundane is anything but dull. It’s the time between hectic and nothing. It’s the place I gravitate back to when I’m overwhelmed. It’s the moments I reflect on when I wonder about my life and how time has passed.

Next time you’re out running errands, forgetting to eat lunch, grabbing pizza for supper, and having to pull into a gas station to fill up, remember that someday you’re going to look back on a day like this and want to live it all over again.

Mundane, by definition, is dull and has no excitement. So, no chaos, no worry, no negative emotions beyond the scope of dull, no pressure, no hurry, no punch list, no schedule, no appointments, no nothing. It’s just dull, everyday, stuff. That one day, in the throes of hectic, or pain, or overwhelm, or hurried, or late, or heartbroken, that you’ll pray for just one more day of.

Over the years, I’ve lost several friends to death–long before their time. I’ve sat by a few of their bedsides on their last day and none of them spoke of wealth, bank accounts, their car or home, clothing, vacations, social media account likes/comments/follower count, looks or figures, politics or religions. Each and every one of them that could still speak in their last hours spoke of love, love for their children, parents, spouse or partner, and friends. Each of them spoke of how they would miss get-togethers, birthdays, weddings, and births. Asked what they’d do differently or wish for if they could, It was always another day, any kind of day of just hanging around, talking, eating a meal with family, and enjoying the simple act of doing nothing but nothing, being everything in that moment.

So, as you go about your daily life, keep in mind, that somewhere behind all the chaos and drama of your day to day, lies in wait, a dull and mundane day just waiting to take you back into its warm and safe arms.

Summertime on the farm in the 1970s

If you drove past our farm in the 1970s you would have seen two things right away in our front yard–my dad’s old B (John Deere) and our tree swing.


Summer in the 1970s was a time of absolutely nothing to keep us indoors except sickness– and even that didn’t do it sometimes. Mother would be hard pressed at days end to get us indoors as we were so busy running around in the dark, feet wet from dew, chasing lightning bugs and scaring each other. Whether it was bike riding on gravel backroads, riding to the store and buying lollies, or dipping my toes in a wading pool or better yet running through the sprinkler–seventies summers were the real thing. –A time period now only revived for period piece sitcoms or movies.  One none of us will ever really experience together again except in memory– of growing up on our family farm and summertime in the 1970s.

I grew up in a valley full of farming families in the 1970s. A time where television meant one channel for us, if we were lucky, and if our antennae wasn’t acting up due to wind—weather was our televisions greatest enemy in the 70s. Of course we only got NBC which for the most part had lots, and lots of sports–not our family’s favorite thing. Saturday mornings, bugs bunny, and after school specials were a highlight for us. We lived thirteen miles from the nearest town which for years had just a mercantile not an actual grocery store. There you could only buy the staples and most of them were limited or outdated. So we would drive over the hill and through the woods to another small town and buy groceries—again from a mercantile but this one actually had stocked shelves and a butcher shop in back. I have great memories of walking the wood plank floors of this stores three aisles and eyeballing the large barrels full of candy at checkout. If we were good we’d be allowed to go into the Rexall across the street and I’d happily browse the magazine racks–my favorite thing, buy the newest Tiger Beat, and a pack of gum if I had any change left over. On Sundays if my dad could find some free time we would take a drive up to this same town and get rootbeer floats at the local A& W.

Life in any year, every generation, has had its hardships and the 70s was no exception. Farming had some rough patches in the 70s and money was tight the whole while I was growing up. My dad had two farms, which was quite a bit of land for a small scale farmer, milk cows, beef cattle, and crops to put in and then harvest seven months out of the year. We didn’t take vacations, but sometimes we would drive to see something of interest–clock museum, steam engine museum and parade, historical marker–things like that would take all of us from the farm on a Sunday afternoon and give dad a break. An ice cream cone, hamburger, or a rootbeer float was always our treat before we headed back home.

Food in the 70s was not at all what food has been for the last 40-50 years. For most people there was no such thing as fast food. I was 18 when they built the first McDonald’s in one of the larger cities we visited to buy school supplies every year. School supplies another favorite memory of mine–also, when Levis first came out in this city and we all took a trip into it to this large warehouse style store and asked to see a pair of Levi jeans. I remember the store was owned by a family and two brothers worked in sales. When we asked to see a pair the one brother whipped out a measuring tape, measured my waist, and then from a large stack of denim jeans tossed a folded pair at me. That was all there was to it–no changing rooms at all. If they were too long, and they were, then you got your mom or grandma to hem them for you. School supplies were purchased at Osco Drug which was right next door. In grade school I think crayons, pencils, and an eraser were probably all we were required to bring. Once in high school we were then required a notebook for each class, book covers for the textbooks handed out, and pencils.

Back to 70s food- there was absolutely no such thing as prepared food until around 1979/1980. I remember this because our neighbors, whom I babysat for, began to purchase microwaves and Banquet chicken/pot pies/ and chicken dinners were introduced in local grocery stores. I loved Banquet chicken !! My mother probably had a microwave by the time I graduated high school, but never ever bought tv dinners or Banquet chicken to microwave in it. She likely used it to warm up tea or coffee as I honestly don’t ever remember it being used for anything else. Prepared foods were frowned upon by most if you were home and able to cook (as you always had been cooking) with staples, items from your garden, and of course your local butcher shop to supply you with everything you needed.

Once our garden started producing supper meals were sliced tomatoes still warm from the summer sun, cantaloupe, mac salad, and Wyler’s lemonade. When strawberries were in season there was lots of sliced berries, angel food cake, and of course everyone’s favorite–strawberry jello with sliced strawberries and cool whip on top. Lunch when we were younger was whenever we could hear my dad coming down the hill by our farm on his tractor. If it was a hot, humid day, he’d be standing up on his tractor all the way down the hill until he pulled into the driveway. Once or twice a summer my grandma and mom would put on a spread out on our picnic table and everyone would eat supper together outside. There would be a cold cut plate with cheese, white bread with butter, strawberry jello, pickles–usually watermelon pickles, and mac or potato salad. As a treat maybe a bag of plain Old Dutch potato chips. Mom would put a can of budweiser in the fridge for dad with a couple of cans of rootbeer for us to share.  Sometimes as a treat she would buy cones for ice cream cones and we would get one or two scoops of butter pecan, or neopolitan, or just plain vanilla. These were simple times and treats like this were a real luxury. Another treat was popcorn which wasn’t made very often, but when it was there were smiles all around. We tried making it in saucepans, air poppers–but what finally worked was when Jiffy made the popcorn you placed on the stove burner and moved back and forth until all the kernels were popped.

Life though busy was a slowed down version of life today. Our phone rang when one of the elders wanted to gossip. In the early days when I was nine or ten years old we still had the party line. There were certain rings that indicated when the call was for you. I’m not sure anyone ever went by that as all I remember was mom or grandma picking the phone up and then setting it back in its cradle right away. The phone was used for emergencies only unless as I said someone rang you. In our house the radio was on all the time and on a channel were there was non-stop grain reports, country music, and Paul Harvey at dinner time. By the way dinner time was the noon meal, supper was the evening meal, and lunch was the sandwich and milk dad grabbed before he went down to milk both in morning and evening.

Night time in the summer in our valley was a delightful orchestra of whipporwill, distant hound dogs barking, sometimes our dog barking, peepers (sometimes bull frogs), and cows mooing lowly. The smells ranged from fresh cut hay, to grain, to soil, rain/river, and manure. All of which I miss to this day. Every time I smell fresh cut hay I’m back home looking out my bedroom window planning my future self/life all the while smelling hay, hearing peepers, sleeping by whipporwill, and rising with the sound of a tractor start.

Just before school started it was fair time. I was in 4-H and always entered flowers, baked goods, and something from the garden. My grandma often helped me with the flower arranging and mom with the baked good. The fair was usually held a week or two before school started so if we got new clothing–which was rare, we sometimes wore it to the fair. With our new Levis, when they came into fashion, one would avoid all stains etc. as you didn’t want to wash them before the first day of school. Washing them would take some of the denim dye out and also make them less stiff–stiff dark denim was a thing once upon a time with no fringes, no holes, and absolutely no wear ! lol The fair was bright lights, lots of noise, ferris wheels, 4-H ribbons, trying to win big teddy bears– I always won the stuffed banana, and eating cotton candy. Oh and stopping in the 4-h barn for a hamburger and boy watching–lots of boy watching. Innocent, easy, summer time fun.

These are my memories of growing up on a farm and summer in the 1970s.

Forest Bathing

I’ve spent at least half my life in the woods among trees. Starting at the young age of 13, I sought refuge there from the stress of school and the overprotectiveness of a parent.  Many a time I lay on the ground without a worry of ticks, or spiders, or whatever creature insect might be crawling around me. Listening as I lay there to the trees speak.  If you are reading this and find yourself hesitant, curious, doubtful, or interested—I invite you to make time to go somewhere, anywhere there are trees and quiet. Sit. Release your worries, stress, anger, hurt and relax in the sway that is a tree. Now at 55, I am still among trees (& still among them at 61) and will be long after this re-imerging trend is gone. (it reimerged again in 2025). Forest bathing or Shinrin -yoku (“taking in the forest atmosphere” or “forest bathing”) has been around since the 1980s and originated in Japan as a form of therapy in nature. I hope people try it, connect with nature, and make a vital connection between planet earth and their health, igniting in them a sense of motivation to protect both.

The scientifically-proven benefits of Shinrin-yoku include:

  • Boosted immune system functioning, with an increase in the count of the body’s Natural Killer (NK) cells.
  • Reduced blood pressure
  • Reduced stress
  • Improved mood
  • Increased ability to focus, even in children with ADHD
  • Accelerated recovery from surgery or illness
  • Increased energy level
  • Improved sleep

The National Institute of Health concludes and accepts proof—it works!  Read here

Science facts here

Forest bathing in Canada  here

Health study articles concluding forest bathing is good for you here

Shinrin-yoku explained here

Trees communicate with each other article by New Scientist here

Books about trees:

The Hidden Life of Trees by Peter Wohlleben here

Article about this book in The Guardian UK here

Walks in the Wild by Peter Wohlleben here

**these books are the best and most informative books on trees & nature that I’ve read and I know you’ll love them**

Plant a tree –here is an organization that can help you

One Tree Planted here